The Fertile Void: A New Beginning in Disguise

When you're going through a divorce, there often comes a time when everything feels still.

You’re no longer in the thick of the arguments, the decisions, or the paperwork. But you’re also not yet on the other side, where things feel settled or clear.

This in-between space can feel unsettling. Empty. Lonely. Like you’ve lost your footing and you’re not sure what’s next.

In coaching, we sometimes call this space the fertile void.

It’s a place where the old has ended, but the new hasn’t quite begun. It can feel like a void — a gap, a pause, a silence — but it’s fertile because it holds the potential for growth, healing, and rediscovery.

🌱 Just like winter lies between autumn’s letting go and spring’s new life, the fertile void is part of your personal cycle of change.

• It’s here that you start to hear your own voice again.

• It’s here that new dreams quietly begin to form.

• It’s here that rest and reflection can lay the groundwork for something new and meaningful.

You don’t need to rush through it. In fact, this space needs time. Time to grieve, to breathe, to listen inwardly.

As your coach, I help you stay with this space gently. To trust that this pause isn't failure or being stuck — it's the soil from which your next chapter will grow.

If you’re in the fertile void right now, you’re not lost. You’re just becoming.

References

The concept of the 'fertile void' is rooted in Gestalt therapy and is often attributed to the work of psychotherapist Joseph Zinker, who described it as the creative pause between ending and new beginning. For more, see: Zinker, J. (1977). Creative Process in Gestalt Therapy. New York: Brunner/Mazel.